I'm a goofball. I love trapeze. I've worked in tech support for 18 years, and have a second job as pastor of a new LGBTQ & Ally church called The Flame. I love my family and friends, databases, and the city of Portland. Oh. and I'm a bisexual trans guy. This is just one part of my identity. I am visible for those who can't be. This is my historical blog.
You are such an inspiration to me, and I can never sufficiently express my gratitude for all of the ways you have loved and cared for me, especially since I have come out as trans.
I am excited to share that after much discernment, prayer, and the required therapist letters, I am continuing my transition from female to male. Yesterday, on July 30th, I took my first testosterone shot. On August 19th, I will be in Fort Lauderdale for top surgery to remove my breasts and give me a male chest.
Some of you will celebrate this news. Thank you! Some of you may struggle with it, and I totally understand. I only ask that you still see me for the lovable goofball I have always been. I am giddy and grateful, and trying not to be too anxious about negative responses from those I care about.
It isn't easy for me to defy expectations or risk upsetting people. My biggest fear in this process has been how people will respond. I'm a people pleaser. I want to be liked, and I hate conflict. But I will risk the hard conversations and negative comments so that I can live more fully as myself. This is an experience that is giving me strength and courage to find my own voice. I do not undertake this lightly, and if you are not supportive, please consider how your words may wound me or harm our relationship.